As my son turned 1, I started thinking about all the wonderful milestones he achieved in his first year of life. It was such a blessing to watch a newborn turn into a little human with personality, likes – dislikes, intelligence and emotions.
One of my most precious times with him is watching him get excited while I practice my dance routine. It is a combination of my passion and the love of my life! It’s heavenly! As I share this with people, I often get statements such as “of course he will turn out to be a good dancer, after all look at his mom”.
As kind as these statements are, they got me thinking the other day. It is OK for people to think it is very obvious for my son to learn and enjoy dance. However, for me it isn’t that obvious. I would love it if he enjoyed dancing as much as I do, but I won’t be disappointed if he picks something else that he enjoys (as long as it is productive).
As parents, there is no end to expectations and comparisons if we start down that road. I hope raising my son makes me a better person and I can rise above the constant “look what so and so’s child can do” and “of course my son has to be good at xyz” We are raising our children in such a chaotic, noisy and immensely difficult world. The last thing they need is pressure from their parents. Does this mean I will have no expectations? Absolutely not! I am a human after all. I just hope that I can control these and not let them interfere with his joys and passions. Also, I hope I can nip the comparisons in my head and gradually evolve to accepting his journey in his own time.
Parenting is a constant journey and I hope to learn from my baby (he will always be my baby) every day! Aren’t kids the best teachers?