Happy Mother’s Day to all the mommies! Mother’s Day celebrates all women who nurture, care for, teach and, who love unconditionally. It takes many such strong and giving women to mother a child.
Our family is blessed to have several caring women who’ve set an example for the family. Our biggest role model is the matriarch of our family, my grandmother “Ba”. At the age of 86, Ba is the mother, supporter, inspiration, giver, motivator, anchor and the spirit of our entire family. She has an ability to be child-like and connect with all her great grandchildren. My son, “A”, is the extremely fortunate as we live just a few minutes away from grandparents and Ba. He gets to see her at least 3-4 times a week. If you thought grandma’s spoil grandkids, great grandma’s take it to a whole another level! I didn’t grow up with a great grandmother and Ba makes me wish I had.
At 86, Ba has some physical limitations and cannot pick up “A” and walk around with him or indulge in a lot of physical play that a toddler thrives on. Yet, she manages to be his most favorite person in the world! They share this beautiful relationship which can’t be explained. All I can do is share a few sweet anecdotes to give a glimpse of their bond.
Every time Ba comes over to our place, “A” beams with joy and runs up to a chair screaming “bes”, asking her to sit. Somehow he understands that she can’t stand for long. He takes my phone and pretends to talk to Ba. Anytime he learns something new, he flaunts all his new talents the minute he sees Ba. Lately he’s started talking to Ba’s picture, feeding it his “mum mum” (food), blowing kisses and excitedly showing his new dance moves. If Ba and “A” don’t meet up for a couple days, he gets upset with her and gives her the silent treatment until Ba gives him some serious attention. Reminds me of Krishna and Yashoda. All of 16 months, “A” knows the nurturer of the family and he knows the unconditional love they share. They talk on the phone every day in limited vocabulary, but for “A”, he talks to Ba at least 50 times a day as part of his pretend play.
There really is no way to describe this love, affection and warmth. We are just fortunate and blessed to experience it.
This Mother’s Day, I’d like to wish all the women who nurture, care for, love and play a role in a child’s life. But most importantly, I want to wish the center of “A’s” universe, Ba!